How honest are you that youve asked: How do I save my relationship with my boyfriend? Do you think its worth saving? Do you honestly believe that your relationship has any chance to work?
But first of all, if youve been asking How do I save my relationship with my boyfriend? the first thing you need to remember is that you cant, at least not all on your own. Its vital that the two of you are willing to work together if your relationship has any chance. If the two of you are willing to be honest and mature about dealing with the issues in your relationship then you may have a chance, but you cant do it all on your own.
If both of you are willing to work on the relationship here are some things you need to consider:
1. What is the problem(s) with the relationship? What is causing the stress and strife? Is it a lot of small things or one really big thing, like infidelity. Sometimes the problem can be a little hard to spot. There are often misunderstandings that have led to resentments. These resentments may have been brewing for so long that you dont even realize they are there. It can be time consuming and challenging to figure out what the issues are and face them head on, especially if you are the one who is mostly at fault.
2. As you learn new ways of communicating with each other, more effective ways that will allow both of you the freedom to tell the other person how youre feeling without it ending up in a fight all the time, you should also be spending time rediscovering each other. Try to get back some of the magic you had when you first met.
How? Simple, do the things you used to do in the beginning. Its so common for couples to get stuck in a rut and get bored, but if youre aware of that danger you can work around it. Try to do some of the things you used to do when you first met, whether it was to go to a movie or go jogging, or whatever. Pull yourselves out of your rut and recapture the magic you both used to share.
3. The last thing you want to do if youre trying to save your relationship is to be a whiny, immature brat. That is not attractive and it will likely just make your boyfriend want to run further away. Instead be a self assured, caring, mature woman who lets him know that you love him and want him but you arent going to fall apart if things dont work out, no one wants a clingy, needy mess. Remind him of the woman he first fell in love with.